Diary: After Enlightenment  (the stage beyond God-Realisation)  

There have been two questions which have occasionally occurred to me during the last 7 years since God-Realisation (or Self-Realisation) happened here:

1) Why do people keep claiming ‘There is nobody here’ – when, to me, there clearly is, even in God-Realisation?
2) Why have I continued to experience (apparently) emotional stress, long into God-Realisation?

These two questions have recently been answered, and I would like to share with you what I have learned...

(The first part of this subject is posted on a page entitled No-Self ).

It has occurred to me, as much for my own sake as anybody else's, that it may be useful to keep a record of any events or changes that seem relevant. Bernadette Roberts describes the experience taking several months to fully settle down in her. As this section grows I will create bookmarks for large items to save scrolling through: 

Bookmarks:

March 2011: March 2011; No Fear; There is only This

April 2011:   Emotional MistNew Teaching; Living in Moment

May 2011:   Liberation

July 2011:   July-Oct

Oct 2011:    The New Phase; The Dream goes on; Finding the Truth

Jan 2012:    2012

March 2012: March 2012, Lucid Dreaming

Diary

March 2011

It is only the next day after I wrote the page No-Self, so here we will begin:

1) Nature Walks - I have found that I am drawn to spend more time out walking amongst nature. This has been along the canal, in the park, in the woods. It feels as if nature is the external representation, or perhaps it's more of a celebration, of what I am feeling within, and it feels like home when I am amongst it.

2) Animals less afraid - It may only be a coincidence, but not only have I noticed more wildlife when I am out and about, but animals seems less wary of me than I would usually expect. 

3) 'Appearance' has changed - I was at work today, and a number of people, independently of each other, commented on how well I looked: A couple made reference to my top suiting me (a bright red polo-shirt which I had to wear for a community event - the same one I wore two weeks ago when no one mentioned it). And another said I looked like I had been on holiday or something! I mentioned this to Sally later, as it seemed a bit strange to me - it wasn't as if I had developed a suntan. She said I did seem different, somehow lighter, as if a weight has been lifted off me.

4) Awoke into Stillness - Last night there was an interesting experience: I woke with a jolt, to be staring into an amazing solid peace (I would say with my eyes closed, but my eyes did not occur to me at the time). It was warm, complete and safe. Not 'intense', as that would imply force of some sort, but I was wide awake, totally aware. Then I began to see what had happened: My hand had slipped off the edge of the bed and knocked the bedside cabinet. This had caused a bit of a noise and a hard knock on my hand, waking me up suddenly...

As I continued to look into it, moments later the newness of the feeling evaporated into the norm, as is the way. But what struck me was the obvious contrast between this 'new' awakened state and the sleeping dreamy state that I had been in only a moment previously, without the usual transition of the waking process. This may be nothing important, but perhaps worth a mention.

5) New Being - It has occurred to me on a few occasions recently, in that moment I am not 'me'. It is as if Nick Roach (or what was identified as being Nick previously, be it his essence or whatever) has gone, and this new energy or persona has moved into Nick's body, still with Nick's memories etc., and of course his appearance, but it's no longer Nick as he was. I seem to recall BR (Bernadette Roberts) describing this in one of her books as feeling like being reborn, and this is as good a description as any. It is like I am experiencing some things for the first time as this new person, but can remember the previous occasions as part of Nick's memories, but they are not my own.

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6) No Fear - One of the characteristics of this state has been described as 'no emotional disturbance'. I have been waiting to be able to comment on this because although I could sense a change, 'feelings' were still here in some form. As BR's works have been my main point of reference in navigating this new phase, I will say that she noticed the emotions for her did not disappear instantly. Anyway, here it is for now:

Last weekend I noticed, when out walking, that I was aware of an ongoing situation at work which I believe is all but resolved now (it's been painfully drawn out). But unlike previously, there was not the strength of feeling attached to it. It was still there, but only when it occurred to me, and was more of a subtle disturbance rather than the stubborn ogre that I would usually face and dissolve. I likened it at the time to the midges (small flying insects) which seemed to be following me along the path as I walked round the lake. Sometimes they seemed to be gone, at others I would look past them and forget about them, and then there were the times when I would be careful of my breathing through concern for inhaling one.  

A couple of days into this week, as I was driving in the car at about midday, it occurred to me that it was gone. All disturbance about the situation (which had not changed externally at that point since the weekend) had evaporated, leaving a void. I tested it, trying to imagine the problem, but could not. It had gone. 

I was not going to get off that lightly, even in these new times though. After a couple more days another major hiccup occurred at work, and I was aware that this on top of all else that has gone before could have been crushing. But not this time. This is new...

All fear had gone; 'fear' being the centre of an emotional response. I had to react still, as the issues had to be addressed, but the thought process was clear. In fact, I commented to Sally that it was as if this latest event had fallen in our laps. It enabled me to highlight to the people that needed to know how awful the ongoing situation has been, with this latest event being the final nudge, the 'last straw', and all in an extremely direct and yet unemotional manner. Had I known that the last 7 years with this single enduring hardship would be the driving force behind my entering this 'final' (so it is said) phase, then it may have made it easier to cope with - but perhaps that's the point! The seemingly never-ending aspect of it combined with it having no apparent meaning made it all the more powerful.

So, I have to assume from everything, and accepting the correlation described above, that the final death of the emotional continuation here will occur within the next few days (if it has not already occurred). If I was pushed to describe what is here now, I may say a phrase I've never used: 'All is going swimmingly!'

(In case other people are even less familiar with the phrase than I am, to me, here, it is as if I am supported, all around, floating, swimming relatively effortlessly, going with the flow).

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7) There is only 'This' - Another common phrase amongst 'spiritual seekers' is 'There is only THIS', or 'This is only awareness experiencing itself'. I have never quite grasped these phrases experientially. Sure, I could say it is ultimately true, but the experience of 'being here' was still a fact and could not be denied. But now I understand...

The problem to me was that the above phrases can give the impression that in such a state there is nothing of what was here previously still remaining to identify with anything. This (to me) sounded as if it may as well be an inanimate object, a robot going through the motions of existing with no sense of being - no 'self' awareness. However, this is not the case as I am experiencing it here, and would like to try to describe it further as I see it:

First we have the 'awareness'. This looks through the mind which encompasses the self and out onto the world of physical experiences. The self identifies with the body, with being separate, and carries the emotional history of the person. Every moment the self is driving the imagination to think about what hurts it, as well as what it likes and doesn't like, and even when sitting quiet in the physical world there is little (no) peace from its interference in some guise or other. And all the time the awareness is just watching, untouched, unencumbered. With each physical interaction the self is interpreting it, acting as a filter so the awareness receives, not necessarily a watered-down version, but more likely a hyped up, 'improved' and modified version.

So, as we start to see from the above, if one removes the filter, the self, it is true that only the awareness is left, but it is the SAME awareness as before, and that is the point I wanted to make (if only for my own sake). The experience of the world is now direct. It is clean, clear, simple; like a crystal glass in the dishwasher adverts, after it has been through a wash with the newest detergent.  :o) 

My 'self' may have gone (or maybe at this point is still in the transition process), but the awareness that remains is still the same awareness that has always been here, looking out through the eyes and experiencing what is here to experience.

To summarise, there is no need to be confused about the saying 'There is only This', or 'There is only awareness experiencing itself', and to wonder what it means: The space you feel inside where you are aware that you exist, that is what remains, still aware, still watching.

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April 2011

8) Emotional Mist - It is now mid April and the journey is still ongoing. The work situation has dragged on and I am taking it as a reflection of the ongoing situation within. What I have noticed is, unlike previously when something may have occurred that would cause an emotional disturbance and I would hold onto the feeling until it dissolved, now there is nothing to grab hold of. Now, only the thought of the situation will occur to me and staying 'aware' (not going into the imagination) results in it quickly evaporating. BR commented on the emotions losing their power prior to their final demise, and that would fit with this experience.

To elaborate, during past weeks I did permit myself to imagine the situation (in the knowledge that I still remain conscious now), and what happened was a sort of whirlwind affect: starting with an emotional 'mist' within my internal awareness, and then proceeding to swirl around, building up in strength as it did so, but in this case swirling around a still and quiet centre - like a tornado. Here there is nothing go grab hold of and nothing to fight against. While the imagination keeps going, so does the swirling. Hence, dropping the imagination at the first hint of a thought denies the initial creation of the emotion, even before the first traces of the mist can arise. This has been my own experience and teaching from the beginning, but usually there has been a time-delay between holding the mind still and the emotion evaporating. Now the correlation is all but instantaneous. 

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9) New Teaching - In this strange unfolding, a major change seems to be the lack of anything new to share, but more than that is the removal of any need to do so.

The elimination of the sense of being anything (no centre etc.) means partly that there is a sense of having nothing to give or to offer, but also that there is no-one to take ownership of anything either. That is to say, I (Nick Roach) used to say that I am Enlightened or God-Realised etc. and taught from there about what it is; and that was the truth.

However, take away the sense of 'being', and it is as if 'I' have nothing 'to hang my hat on' (and then I notice I no longer have a hat). There really is nothing to teach and no-one to teach it, and yet here I sit, writing this! ...How peculiar!.  :o)

BR said one thought that occurred to her is that people may as well keep their self, as in the end it is all they have!    :o)

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10) Living in the Moment - It is said that the experience of No-Self is of truly living in the moment, so I have been waiting to write something on this. In the last couple of days I have asked myself how mindful (in the moment) I currently am, and I am not quite sure...

It seems a bit strange actually, and I think it’s because I am on the cusp (or still in the transition process). I will explain…

Here it’s been about a month so far, and certainly there has been a big change, but it’s difficult to remember sometimes what it was like before. Also, thoughts do still occur every so often, and it’s as if I may still ‘dip my toe’ of thinking/imagination into them, as if to test the water, and then quickly withdraw it as if remembering that I have been there and didn’t like it. All is good. :o)

However, Bernadette Roberts described the process taking several months to complete once the centre had evaporated for her, so I expect the experience to continue to unfold.

Cont...

Two weeks have passed since I wrote the last part on Living in the Moment, and I now have more to write. I would say the process is almost complete with regards specifically to 'being in the moment' (as it is said) and I would like to say a bit about this:

When I have heard or read about this element of 'Enlightenment' (No-Self) there was always a small question in me as to what was really meant and what it was like. And why would there not be? Until one has experienced what is being described, it is largely theoretical. 

As with much of the information that has come to me as insights into how this existence works, this new phase has also been interpreted for me in relation to this behaving like (being) a dream existence. When it has occurred to me over the last few days to reflect on what I am experiencing here and how best to describe it, this is what has been offered:

The term 'Living in the Moment' for some reason always gave me the impression of a fixed, structured, Now! Now! Now! sort of experience, where one would be totally aware that there is only now and here 'I' am. However, this is not how it has come to me...

...As I looked, I likened it to when I am asleep in bed, dreaming: although I may have a thought, such as 'where is so-and-so?' or 'What is that?', there is no drifting off into the imagination ('day dreaming'). I am totally 'in the moment' (in the dream). But also I noticed that this is not through any effort (and this may be a new connection). In the dream, the idea of past and future does not really arise in the usual sense, and I simply deal with whatever is in front of me at the time. And that's not to say there is no emotion in the dream. It can occur (as we all know). It is just that it lacks permanence...

And this is how I experience this 'Living in the Moment' here, whilst 'awake'. There is no effort, and most of the time I am not even aware that I am in the moment. Again, the notion of past and future simply does not occur. All 'time' is part of the unending moment. 

Another way of explaining it may be to liken the 'normal' way of thinking and living to navigating a fast flowing river with its twists and turns, where one must watch out and allow for the oncoming rapids whilst bailing water out the boat and patching up any damage from the last stretch. But living 'in the moment' is more like floating, bobbing up and down in the open ocean, with no sight of land and little sense of time. It is as if there is no past or future, and certainly no way to know from which direction one has come or where one is heading, if one is indeed heading anywhere.

('Enlightenment' I suggest is somewhere in between the two; perhaps still in the river, but it has widened and slowed considerably. There are still rocks and turns to navigate around, but no more rapids and no more having to bail out water or repair the boat to prevent it sinking).

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May 2011

11) Liberation: It occurred to me to contact our good friend Dr Nitin Trasi as I recalled him writing about 'Liberation' occurring after Enlightenment. Then I remembered that I too wrote an essay on it back in 2004. This was initially published on this website and later was put into our 2nd book 'Essays in Truth, Glimpses into Reality'. At that time the writing was based on a combination of insight and logic (from what I had already gone through), and once written it was soon forgotten. (This is another example of the time delay which will often exist between seeing a truth and fully realising it).

Website for Nitin Trasi: www.the-science-of-enlightenment.com

As I go further into this experience, I am beginning to see that I prefer the term 'Liberation' to 'No-Self'. This is because there is so much confusion as to what the word 'Self' is, that if one has to go to considerable lengths in defining it before one even gets to what it is to have 'no self', the whole subject can become confusing. However, the term Liberation is descriptive in itself (and quite accurate), thus requires far less explanation to the lay-person (to at least give an idea as to what is meant).

(NB. Bernadette Roberts has written a very detailed book devoted solely to investigating 'What is Self?')

In the same way, the state of Enlightenment or Self-Realisation has also been described as the 'No Ego' experience. But we have a seemingly never-ending debate, spanning history across the globe, regarding the reality of the 'ego'. Hence I have always avoided this word too.

So, I think from this point forward I am going to opt to use the term Liberation as my primary label (as it was, back in 2004).

12) Liberation cont...

A few days have passed since I wrote the above piece on Liberation, and as I was writing it an image came to me: that is of a person seated in a single person dingy in the middle of the ocean with no land or indeed anything in sight besides the water (it has just occurred to me that I don't think I even noticed any horizon)... There was no sense of fear, or indeed any emotion, or movement of any sort, from this lone person. The boat had no means of propulsion and there was no intention within this person to go anywhere... Just floating, watching...

I write this now because this image has stuck with me ever since. Every so often it has occurred to me to look at it, but it is as if it is always there. (I suspect it is simply reflecting in image form the phase I am entering, but it is new to me).

What I had not appreciated until earlier today is that the person, the boat and the ocean all still exist. As peaceful, amazing, and even 'alien' this new state of being may be, it is still 'being' nonetheless. There is no denying that 'I' still am. There is no sense of time; no wanting to get anywhere and no sense of having been anywhere. There may be only 'being', but 'being' there is.

PS. I feel moved to add the following:

"While the word 'Liberation' remains, in whatever sense - in fact, while any word remains...

...and then, perhaps meaningfully, here the sentence ends without words!, but the meaning is clear..."

This then reminds me of the quote from The Bible: 'In the beginning was The Word'.  

(I am not totally sure what the relevance of the last paragraph was, but it felt right to record it).

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July 2011

13) Life changes

The external life has now changed, enabling me to have more time away from work. Time will see how this goes, but I feel I desperately need it.

August 2011

14) Cheyenne

The extended time away from work has given me a feeling of space within, and with it came a new experience. I have given this its own page: Cheyenne (the New Beginning)

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October 2011

14) The new phase

It has been a while since I wrote anything, and the other week I looked back at some of what I had written above and saw this from April 2011 6) No Fear: "So, I have to assume from everything, and accepting the correlation described above, that the final death of the emotional continuation here will occur within the next few days (if it has not already occurred)."

Reading the above, I had to ask, internally, 'Has the emotion 'died'; am I now free?'.

As I looked, the first response was 'No, nothing has changed!... Sure everything is ok and I have no problems and life is going well, but nothing has actually changed!".

So, I brushed this aside as not being worth recording, but over the next few days it dawned on me the implications of what I had seen: Externally the circumstances of life had changed to allow me more time outside the working environment (which I knew I desperately needed), and since then internally/emotionally everything had changed - but only in so much as there are no problems...

I had to wonder if that meant something had actually changed within, or was it simply that the issue causing the problems had been removed, and hence I was now feeling better...

Then something else happened: 

The new additional time away from work has allowed me to slow down. The momentum which has been going for so long is now transforming into more of a pause, even in action. That is to say, while the pause used to be present between action (and this was all it was), I have noticed that even in the midst of action a pause is developing. And more-so, this pause has information in it...

And here we get to the point (and it may be only a passing point, as experiences change and I can only write what I experience as I do):

15) Enlightenment Vs Liberation

It is often the case that it is only once one has gone beyond something, all the way through and out the other side, that one can see it for what it was. A truly 'Enlightened' person may be able to describe perfectly their experience of Enlightenment, but they are missing one major aspect or perceptive. Sure, they know what it is like both before Enlightenment and during it, but they still lack the ability to look back on it from the other side. It is this new phase that I am entering here, and I would like to write a little about it.

Looking back, I would now describe the experience of my Enlightenment (and I say it like that because people will experience it in different ways) as being self-aware or conscious all the time. But that only means to be aware of one's self all the time. The centre of my 'being' was always present, regardless of what else was happening around me, regardless of how difficult the circumstances of life were and regardless of how painful life got - my centre was strong and constant...

And, if I was replying to an email or giving a talk, or indeed at any other point during the day that I was reminded, the knowledge that this is all a dream (more-so (to me) my own dream) would be there, immediate and unquestionable. However, even in this state, this brief and occasional reminder was not enough to break through the disturbance which I was facing in my day to day living. I had to persevere...

The new change, which is only days old as I write this, is that every few minutes the Self-knowledge comes to me that this is indeed a dream, my own dream, and that I am alone. But more than being a knowledge, this is a real experience - the same one it seems that I had 9 years ago and is what I have always described as my initial entrance into Enlightenment: It was as if I was truly awake in the dream, rather than just intuitively knowing it's a dream...

But at that time the experience faded leaving only the knowledge that was available at any time that I looked, 'I am This' or 'I am alone'. However, this new phase seems to be the becoming of the constant experience (with the knowledge) that this is a dream / 'Maya'...

I suspect this is going to be the major aspect of the Liberation state for me: to never again be engulfed in emotion as a result of an external situation. Time will tell...

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16) The Dream goes on...

This new phase is a little strange. As I described above, the information is not new – I first had the insight that this is a dream about 17 years ago, and this knowledge was further concreted nearly 9yrs ago with the experience of ‘Becoming it’, but that quickly passed and left only the inner knowledge; a sort of intuition. As undeniable as it was, it was only knowing it, not being it. Here, the experience is back...

It still comes and goes throughout the day… but to further describe what it is like, imagine if you can being at work, in the usual office (assuming you work in an office), and you are aware that you are ‘awake’, but walking around in your own dream: The office, the building, and indeed the task you are currently carrying out, is all within your dream. What would you do?

Many would suggest that in the situation described above, if they were absolutely sure it was a dream, that they would walk out of the office, possibly pausing only to tell someone what they really thought of them, and off they would go for good; very likely to indulge in a series of other 'reckless’ activities on their way home – or possibly just leave their life behind and not go home at all. (ie. no fear of consequences).

But hold on a moment… What if there are consequences, not because it is not a dream, but because the dream keeps going? Whatever you do ‘today’, whether ‘today’ is real or not, will affect what is dreamt tomorrow. As per the words that came to me when I first had the insight all those years ago: ‘A Dream it may be, but the Dream goes on!’. There is no escape. (Another relevant saying is to ‘Reap what you sow’).

Another what if…

Most of us have seen the film The Matrix: Perhaps you would be tempted to ‘take the red pill’; in effect to end the dream to see what is beyond it? BUT, what if there is nothing beyond it, or worse still, what if another dream is created and you would start again, but without the knowledge that it is a dream? Would you rather live with the knowledge, which awards a certain detachment and a relative end to the day-to-day emotional struggle, or risk coming back without it?

Another relevant point is the people you interact with and the daily living that you may currently enjoy, and all that you might ‘miss’… You see, just because you are 'awake', the dream does not change. Only the way you perceive it has changed.

So, I suggest that you have struggled so long to get to this point and to now be free – ‘Liberated’; it is easier to carry on, and begin to enjoy the dream - go with the flow..

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17) Finding the Truth

So, you are awake in the dream (following on from the above scenario)...

Question: What do you know?

Answer: Well, not much really!...

  • You know you are here, but not what you are, or even where here is.

  • You know (as much as anything can be 'known') that this is a dream, taking the meaning from our common understanding of the word 'dream'; and yet, except for the regular respite from it when you appear to go to sleep here, each time you return to the dream the circumstances continue where you last left it...

  • (Imagine for a moment the above happening here too... if each time you went to sleep (at night in your bed) you 'awoke' back in the same dream, night after night? Sure, time had moved on a bit - say 16 hours since you last were there - but nothing to raise any question. How easy would it be to become emotionally attached to the dream, whether pleasant or extremely painful? We are affected by our dreams now, as they are real to us while we are in them (just like here). But what if the same dream was continued night after night, week after week, year after year? - That is what this is like). 

  • We had always assumed this 'physical environment' was reality, and that when we 'sleep' we let go of it for a while; but suddenly what we call 'Deep Dreamless Sleep' seems to adopt the mantel of being the nearest to 'true' reality that we can get: This is when the dream ends - when all dreaming ends!?

  • So, to find The Truth, where should one look? ...Your whole reality is dreamt after all. Experience has shown that the more you look within, at your sense of 'being', the more the illusion of the dream is seen through and the less 'important' it becomes. Reasoning suggests that eventually the dream will simply evaporate and there will be nothing left to either know anything or to be known; so only here, in the illusory existence, can anything be known to any extent, while it is here. And yet, how do you dissect a dream? This is a truly amazing place. Scientists are trying to understand this reality in so many ways, are have made wonderful progress, but will there ever be a point when the true nature of this place will be undeniable, or will we always simply find more 'dream': more stuff to measure? (Maybe the nearest we can get to science finding 'The Truth' here is something close to the theoretical 'Dark Matter' or even more-so 'Dark Energy'... It cannot be seen, so it is 'non-physical', and yet its effects are there. But saying that, I am by no means a scientist, so I am only speculating here).

18) New implications

Another week has passed and we are now at the end of October. The experience is almost uninterrupted now, in my 'waking state' (and that can be taken both ways), and I wanted to make note of a few observations that have occurred...

First, again I will say that there is no new information in this for me. I had the insight (as a glimpse into true Self-knowledge and not just an intellectual understanding) when I was about 21 years old, and 9 years later I had the experience of becoming what I had known all those years. This experience passed and left only the knowledge which has been lived ever since...

Now that the experience has returned, the implications of the information also return: the questions and the new perceptions.

For example, I was reminded of the TV series and films 'Highlander', where the main character is immortal (unless his head is cut off), going through his long life having to change his name every so often, taking on the identity of someone who has passed away. That suggestion always seemed quite cool, but not any more: Once one is 'awake' in their own dream, the idea of the dream lasting forever seems to lose its sparkle to some degree.

And likewise, watching the TV series like 'X' Factor which is on at the moment, and seeing how hollow it now seems if one was to be idolised and one's attention craved, when everybody else is known to be figments in one's own dream.

And being successful at anything carries the same feeling: nothing is really achieved - like kids fighting over who has built the best sandcastle on the beach as the tide comes in to wash it all away.

And having said all that, this must still be lived: the game must still be played and one must still get up and do what needs to be done each day. As I said above, a dream it may be, but the dream still goes on. There are still consequences, none-the-less.

However, another aspect worth noting is that this is still emotionally unsettling for me, if only a little. Even though none of it is new, clearly there is an emotional death going on.

A phrase which has occurred to me is what The Buddha is supposed to have said to the men who noticed he was 'different' in some way, and asked if he was a magician amongst other things, and eventually The Buddha replied simply "I am awake!".

19) Buddha Poem - Quoted from: http://www.religionfacts.com/buddhism/beliefs/afterlife.htm#1

The Buddha said of death:

Life is a journey.
Death is a return to earth.
The universe is like an inn.
The passing years are like dust.

Regard this phantom world
As a star at dawn, a bubble in a stream,
A flash of lightning in a summer cloud,
A flickering lamp - a phantom - and a dream.
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Nirvana

Nirvana is the state of final liberation from the cycle of death and rebirth. It is also therefore the end of suffering. The literal meaning of the word is "to extinguish," in the way that a fire goes out when it runs out of fuel. In the Surangama, the Buddha describes Nirvana as the place in which...

"..it is recognized that there is nothing but what is seen of the mind itself; where, recognizing the nature of the self-mind, one no longer cherishes the dualisms of discrimination; where there is no more thirst nor grasping; where there is no more attachment to external things."

19) January 2012

It has been several weeks since I updated this page and it seemed time to do so. Below I will list the main points:

  • First, since writing above that the knowledge that this is a dream is now constant, this has since changed to be more a gentle coming and going of the awareness of the knowledge. Not a major point perhaps, but for the sake of accuracy I wanted to include it.

  • Second, possibly in-keeping with Barry Long's teachings regarding one's relationship being a vital part of the (so-called) 'spiritual journey' (Barry's main teaching was largely focused on how to love 'rightly' in order to grow in love and consciousness), as close and Sally and I have been over the 8 or so years since we met, suddenly things have entered a new phase in recent weeks and we are much closer and in-tune then ever before.   

  • Another small point: Last week I received an email from a visitor to the website asking whether the page describing my '3 requirements for lasting contentment' should be updated following the developments over the last few months, so update it I have. Not much has changed, but there may be an interesting addition: #update2012.

  • Also, I have received contact from a number of people regarding various teachers who, invariably having had some kind of spontaneous awakening, teach with bold phrases like: "This is just happening; there is no 'path' and no 'spiritual journey!" - "You are already Enlightened; you just don't know it!" - "There is nobody here to be, or to not be, Enlightened" - "Just surrender and be here now; there is nowhere else to be as nothing is real!" - etc... After a little while considering the above (not for the first time) and how different my approach is from theirs, I eventually came to the conclusion that the reason these teachers do not teach a 'path' or process to 'spiritual' development (such as the facing and dissolving of emotion) is simply (and this seems obvious really) because they did not follow a path themselves. I was taught by Barry Long about the cause and effect of this emotional temporary existence, and have watched the domino effect of the circumstances of my life every day for the last 20+ years, and to me it is obvious. And yet these people insist there is no cause and effect; everything just is! All I can say to that is, if you really are able to just 'be', like that, then great. But for the rest of us who have to play the game, I can teach you the rules.  :o) 

20) Dream - Dying in car crash

A few days ago I had a dream. I was the passenger in the front seat of a car, driving up some steep and windy roads on the side of a mountain. Soon the driver pulled into a gravel car park, swung the car around and parked so that I was looking out of the side window over the valley, about 18 inches from the edge and the steep drop below.

Only a moment later the driver said "Hold on, I will pull forward a bit", and he started the engine and drove forward as he had said, to be closer to the edge...

From this moment the dream was in three stages, each one being a moment frozen in time, allowing my mind to consider what was occurring...

1) In my mind's eye, I saw the outside of the car, like a camera zoomed in on the front wheel next to me, and I watched as it tipped over the edge and small rocks fell away; and for a second the vision froze...

As I looked at the wheel, and saw the extreme drop below, down the several-storey vertical cliff to the rocky surface at the bottom, a few thoughts quickly went through me: 'Is this real? 'Is this a set-up; some sort of 'You've Been Framed' TV show?'...

2) Then, my view of the edge of the cliff disappeared underneath as the car lunged forward, and the entire front end of the car was over the edge and starting to fall. At this point I immediately knew this was real...

Again, here the scene froze, and I had time to ask a few more questions: 'Why is this happening?'; 'What will dying now achieve?'; 'I have come so far... What will I possibly learn from dying, now, like this?'; 'What is the point?!'.

3) Then the scene jumped forward again, and I was staring out of the front window only yards before we hit the bottom. The rocky surface filled the entire windscreen. During the fall the car had begun to flip head-over-heels, and the landing was going to be partly nose-first with a heavy crash on the roof, flattening the car...

As I looked, I knew this was going to be all-but certain death, and at the very least I would be left in a hell of a mess if I was to survive. And because of this knowledge (and this is the point for me), the words that actually came out of my mouth (in the dream) were surprising in that they were humorous. I said simply: "Oh Fu*king Hell; this is not going to be good!".

Then it went black, and I woke up!

Meaning?...

I can usually glean some sort of message or lesson from a 'striking' dream such as this, as my dreams tend to follow the same pattern as in my daily life and relate to some sort of emotional attachment. The scenario itself probably came from a combination of watching the Ice Road Truckers' Deadliest Roads recently, and likewise an episode of Top Gear where they did a program on the same type of roads; teetering on the edge of a sheer drop with two cars trying to pass where there was only room for 1½  cars... 

But as for the lesson itself, so far I have just been intrigued by my attitude at the time. There was no fear; just a questioning as to the reason, and then a feeling of total 'surrender' to 'what is', and indeed what was to be, where I was powerless to affect the outcome in any way.

March 2012

21) 'Awake' when asleep - Lucid Dreaming

So far, my being 'awake' has been in this 'real' world (where everybody thinks they are awake, but that is because they don't know they are dreaming)...

Well, within the last couple of weeks I have had two additional meaningful dreams:

1) I was in a house with the occupants. They were being very pleasant and were about to show me around, and suddenly I was awake and aware that I was dreaming. A moment later it occurred to me, as this was a dream, then nothing can go wrong, so I decided to see what would happen if I was to take off all my clothes (please forgive the mental image if you are easily offended)....

As I stood there, naked, the occupants did not flinch. They continued to act as if nothing had happened and we spoke, normally.

A few minutes passed, and still unsure as to whether their lack of reaction was due to them not noticing, or being too polite to say anything (in the dream), it occurred to me that actually I was being very rude. Dream or not, I was showing no respect to these people who were being very nice to me.

With that I began to get dressed. (I remember having a little trouble locating my underpants and picking up and studying a pair that did not look like mine).

The second Dream I cannot remember in any detail. All I recall was that I was awake again, aware that I was dreaming, and this time chose to carry on as if nothing had changed (as one must do here). The dream was uneventful, but that shift was relevant.

14th March 2012

It has been a year since this process began and this Diary was started. A lot has changed:

Environmentally, my life is now very comfortable (thank you); it's been a long time coming. Work is good, and home-life and specifically my relationship is great. It's an amazing change.

Personally, I am more relaxed, and yet I have also been moved to break down a few of the mental structures that have existed in me all my life with regards to how I perceive and present myself (namely: I got my ear pierced; got my first tattoo; my goatee has become a fuller (but still quite neat) beard; I am learning to ride a motorbike; have gone back to the gym; and given up coffee and gone onto herbal tea. Quite a list - I am not quite becoming a hippy though, if that' show it sounds).

Spiritually (for want of a better word), being 'Awake' is increasingly becoming the norm. Again, this is not as an intuitive knowledge that this is a dream, but as a real experience.

I will add though that this does not mean in a day-to-day sense that living has changed. By that I mean, being 'Awake' does not mean I can walk through walls or fly, or move mountains with a single thought (years ago I read some of the old stories about Eastern Masters who apparently did these things). However, blatant coincidences occur regularly, making living (at present, at least) relatively effortless.

 

I don't know how things will progress from here, or whether there will just be more of the same, but I will update this page in future if anything spectacular does change.

 

Thank you for reading.   

Nick Roach

 

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